Articles & Advice

Print Article by eHarmony Advice

There are many steps in relationships and usually at some point in long-term relationships, individuals begin to consider moving in together. After all, you've been dating for a while, things seem to be going great – isn't it a wise decision to share your life even more? How do you know when it's the right time? Here is some important information that might help if you're asking the question, 'should we move in together?'

Do You Already Spend a Significant Amount of Time in Each Other's Homes?

Moving in together is a huge decision. Dealing with someone inside their own little world is different from visiting it from time to time. If you and your partner have been spending most of your time together anyway, deciding to move in probably won't be a big deal.

There will be an adjustment period as you get accustomed to sharing your living space, but this is not usually a cause for concern. Often times, it's a good sign that the relationship is ready to progress to the 'move in together' stage if you're already practically living together anyway.

How New is the Relationship?

Obviously, it's important to take your time and make sure that the relationship is going to last for a long time before moving in together. However, even individuals in very new relationships can feel as if it will last forever. It would be disappointing for the relationship to end after you've moved in together and started a life together. You shouldn't think negatively but you should think realistically.

Don't be afraid to let some time pass before you make your decision. Having a steady, consistent relationship for two years or more is a good idea before you decide to live together. This will give you the chance to determine whether you would truly be compatible if you decide to share your living space.

Determine the Pros and Cons

There are some pretty obvious benefits to moving in together – like the fact that it will probably be much cheaper. However, by determining the other pros and cons of the situation, you can better decide whether it is a good idea. Somewhere on your 'pro' list should be the fact that you are completely in love and want to actually start a new step in your relationship.

If there are more pros than there are cons, chances are it would be good for you. However, if it's the other way around – you may want to reconsider or give the relationship some more time before making this large step.

Are the Basics Determined?

If the two of you moved in together, where would you live – your home, your partner's home or somewhere else? How different are the two of you when it comes to the way you live and the kind of home you want to live in? If you both like the same sorts of things, chances are the move will not be a huge ordeal. However, if you're polar opposites, it could be difficult to get used to living with your partner. If you already have all the basics worked out, you will probably enjoy living with your partner.

Although deciding whether to move in together is a huge decision, it's a natural 'next step' in a stable, loving relationship. Determining if you should move in together can be easy if you follow the advice and information here.

Next: Are You Ready to Trade Keys?