Black Singles Love & Dating:
Find that Someone Special Online

You've decided it's time to find someone special, but you don’t know how to begin looking. Finding the 'one' can feel downright impossible when you've tried it all, including blind dates and bar hopping. But, you can have an easier time trying to find someone special when you know what to look out for.

1. Don't hold out for Mr. or Ms. Perfect
One of the key mistakes people make when trying to find someone special online is holding out for their ideal Trying to find someone to fit the perfect mold you've created in your head is a effort in insanity. Instead look to find someone who is a lot like you. If you like playing video games, try to find someone that likes playing video games as well.

2. Figure out what you really need
In order to find someone special to spend time with, you have to know what you are looking for first. Not knowing what you are looking for in a relationship could have you bouncing around from date to date unfulfilled at not being able to find someone. Take a minute to see what characteristics you're looking for to narrow your search. Finding someone special is about what you need as much as what you want, so you can be happy when you do find someone.

3. Be yourself
This might sound like a no-brainer, but many people who are trying to find someone have a tendency to act how they think their date wants them to act, and it blows up in his or her face. The goal is to find someone who loves you for who your really are, not an actor trying to be something you're not. If when you let them see who you are they stick around, you just might find someone who’s a keeper.

4. Don't become obsessed
With the thrill that online dating carries, it's easy to become obsessed, or become a serial dater instead of trying to just find someone that makes you happy. Although it may feel sexy to indulge in the thrill of dating, you do yourself (and your partner) a disservice to find someone and back out when problems arise. Real relationships have ups and downs, and it doesn't bode well for you to find someone else during the down times.

5. Be patient
The process to find someone special in your life is unpredictable. Take your time and allow dating to happen naturally. So many people think that a couple of chats and an initial café meeting will allow them to find someone ready for marriage. Not happening. Relax and enjoy.

6. Online Dating
Looking online can be easy if you have the right attitude. Dating sites offer way to find someone you might be interested in, and put you out there as well. You're not going to find someone if you simply register and browse. Set up your profile honestly and allow others looking to find someone special find you. Even online, love is a two-way street.

7. Free Trial
Jump start your quest to find someone special with an online dating service free trial. Take the time to register and take your free trial seriously. It makes sense when trying to find someone to take a look at all of your dating options. The produce section in the grocery store on Wednesday nights is fine, but in order to find someone you're looking for, you've got to pull out all the stops.

8. Get more advice
Advice to help you find someone special just got easier. The Pulse is a video series exclusively at AOL Personals that interviews the man-on-the-street perspective to dating. They cover different dating topics and common questions that people have when they are first dating or trying to find someone. Sugar & Spice is another AOL Personals exclusive feature, offering people looking to find someone special real-world dating advice. As their names suggest, every question asked gets two answers, one that is gentler on the feelings of the reader, and the other a relationship wake up call. If you have a dilemma blocking your path to find someone special, Sugar & Spice can offer solace. Poignant advice abounds to help you on your search for someone special

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