Dear Sugar & Spice ... I'm a single 41-year old who recently met a guy who is noticeably younger than I am. We've talked on the phone a couple times and are now making plans for a dinner date. He has a general idea of my age since I have mentioned, on a couple occasions, that I have a 17-year old son. Well I ended up Googling him and discovered he is much younger than I originally thought. I was able to find out where he's from, the college he went to and, most importantly, that he is only 24 years old. Given I am almost twice his age, do I still go to dinner with him? My friends are giving me a hard time -- calling me Mrs. Robinson. What do I do since the age different doesn't seem to bother him?
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A Little Sugar
The age difference may not bother him, but it seems to bother you. The important thing, as with any relationship, is that both parties are comfortable with each other. If you can get over the age difference, then go out and have fun with him. A date doesn't mean instant marriage and, for the most part, it doesn't even mean a second date -- sad to say. This date can help you better understand who you are and what you're looking for in a relationship. It can also open you up to new avenues for finding that someone special. Daters do what is familiar and it's hard to move out of one's comfort zone to try new dating approaches -- whether that's across race lines or even ages. This young buck can help you grow to be a better dater. As for your friends, let them have their laughs since you know where you'll be come Saturday night, and they at home watching another episode of Sex in the City alone.
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A Lot of Spice
I think the question to ask is not if your girlfriends think he's too young but if you do. You knew he was younger and that didn't stop you from forming a connection with him. Remember, you're just going for dinner so it's only the first date. And while we're on that, stop and think. Why are you selling yourself short? Forty-one is young and vibrant and you've met a man that knows that. Go for it! What do you have to lose? If you find there's no chemistry then you've gone on one date and can move on. But what if you do find that spark? Do you want to chance it because of something as insignificant as his age? This is your dating life. You're the one in control. Your girlfriends aren't going on a date with him, so kindly tell them to hold off on the Mrs. Robinson innuendos until you make-up your mind. Go have a fabulous dinner and enjoy what younger men have to offer!