Dear Sugar & Spice ... I met a really nice guy on AOL Personals, and was looking forward to getting to know him. We talked for a week through e-mail, and then a week on the phone before setting up a dinner date. I met him in the lobby of the restaurant and he was everything that I hoped for. The thing is, after we were seated, he asked me if I wouldn't mind paying for dinner. He wouldn't have money until Tuesday, when he would pay me back. I was so disappointed that I left the restaurant as the waiter handed us the menus. My friends say I was too hasty and should have stayed to get to know him better. What do you think?
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A Little Sugar
Your friends are completely wrong. You were well within your right to walkout. Why would you want to get to know him better? You already know he's a freeloader and that he errs in judgment thinking that, of all things, you are a free lunch. Any guy who shows up to a date not prepared deserves to be single FOREVER. Sure he'll pay you back right after he sets up that ohh-so-unlikely second date. And for the second date, I envision a McDonald's value meal that you both split since I bet this guy is probably financially overextended. Either that or he is dirt poor, so regardless, you don't need to jump into money issues with him before you even get a first kiss.
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A Lot of Spice
Oh my, how messed up is that? It'd be one thing if he told you he didn't have any money before you guys went out, but to wait to spring that little tidbit of information on you at the restaurant is scandalous! Don't get me wrong; I see nothing wrong with women paying for dates these days. But isn't it better to work those details out BEFORE you're seated at the restaurant? At best, that sneaky move was inconsiderate on his part. So now you know two important things about him; he's broke AND inconsiderate. How much more do you really need to decide whether they'll be another date? Chime In | Meet Spice