Dear Sugar & Spice ... Jack and I have been seeing each other for the past four months, and we already know that we're perfect for each other. We see each other just about every day, and most of the time I stay at his house which is a little closer to my job. I was thinking about asking him if he'd like for me to move in with him, since we spend so much time together anyway. Should I or is it too soon?
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A Little Sugar
Seems like these days everyone has the U-Haul already loaded up before they even go out on a date. Sure you're spending lots
of time with him at his place,
but moving in together is a totally different story. At four months in, you have it sweet. You can, at any point, make your escape from him by retreating to your place if you need your time -- he can't. Once together, there is no escape so you'll have to deal with everything from his nasty toe clipping habit to strange noises from the bathroom. I recommend you spend more time together before making the big jump. And when the time is right, sit down and discuss expectations. Since you might like things orderly and he, on the other hand, believes life has balance when it's all over the place. Chime In | Meet Sugar
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A Lot of Spice
That is the ultimate death nail, asking a man if he'd like YOU to move in with HIM. If he says no, you'll be crushed, and after only four months, there's a very high probability that he's not ready to give up his bachelor pad. What's your rush to shack up, anyway? You're headed right down the "no need to buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" road, and you're moving pretty darn fast. Pump the brakes and slow down just a little bit to figure out what you really want. If you want to spend more time with the guy, do it without moving in together. If you want to live closer to work, find another apartment to rent. Otherwise, enjoy the "perfect" relationship exactly the way it is before you go messing it up. Chime In | Meet Spice