Dear Sugar & Spice ... There's this man at work that I am interested in. We have been out for drinks twice; however, he is going through a divorce at the moment. I know he needs time so I don't want to push him into a relationship. How can I let him know I am interested without appearing too eager and/or pushy?
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A Little Sugar
He needs to close out his divorce, but I don't see a reason why you can't shift into forward once the paperwork is signed. There is no right time to saddle up to someone who's rebounding from a failed marriage or bad relationship. And if you let him out to pasture, there's a chance someone else might come along and catch his eye -- pushing you completely out of the game. Show him you're interested by setting up fun and easy dates with him. Don't focus on romance, but plan dates around things you both are interested in, i.e., wine tasting, cooking, museums/art galleries. This shifts the date's focus on fun, since he's probably looking for a friend right now. And being a friend doesn't mean you can't be one if you're of the opposite sex. Go for it, I would!
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A Lot of Spice
I would be just a little more worried about yourself in this situation than him. The last thing you want to be is the rebound girl, and this is a classic setup for it. He's a man going through a divorce. That is the biggest, flashing-neon, warning sign you could ever get to tread lightly. Divorce, even in the best circumstances, is emotionally trying for both parties at the very least. Why would you want to be part of that situation if you don't have to be? Besides, I think you've already let him know you're interested by going out a couple of times already. If I were you, I would sit back and wait to see how the whole divorce thing plays itself out before making any more moves in his direction.