Love -- Whose Love Wins Out?
Dear Sugar & Spice ... I've been dating a really great guy for the past six months and we're talking about getting married. The thing is my daughter, who's 13, can't stand him. From the day she met him, she's been stand-offish and suspicious of him, but she can't really tell me why. Even though she's a typical selfish teenager, she's a pretty good kid and I generally trust her judgment. But I'm torn because I thought things would get better over time. Should I stop dating this guy who's making me happy for the sake of my daughter, or should I continue to make wedding plans at my daughter's expense?
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A Little Sugar
Six months and you are already talking marriage? Did you gloss right over the 'honeymoon phase' and sidestep sex all together? Maybe your daughter's concern is that things are moving a little too fast too? Marriage isn't just about you and him, but your daughter as well. Even if you both are full steam ahead, you need to slow down and get her comfortable -- whether it takes one month or 12. Put the marriage on hold and give more time to the three of you. And if you daughter's mind doesn't change, it probably won't so expect even more drama after you are married.
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A Lot of Spice
Speaking as a single mother, you know as well as I do that if your daughter isn't happy, you won't be happy either. Put the wedding plans on hold for just a moment, and see if the problems she has with your fiancée can be worked out in family counseling. She could be bothered by something as simple as she doesn't want anybody coming between you two, or it could be as complex as his presence really makes her uncomfortable. It's important that you find out exactly what's bothering her before you become a family, or the problems will only get worse. Your daughter's happiness is just as important as your own, so you're going to have to find a way to have both, even if it means giving up the guy. Chime In | Meet Spice