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Sugar & Spice: A Strange Love





Dear Sugar & Spice ... I met a man thru an online dating service and have been chatting ever since for the past five months. We're 100% exactly alike and both agree that's true. After waiting until we were both ''in love with each other'', we decided it was time to meet in person. The first date was at his house. After a couple hours, I began to feel uncomfortable since I haven't really dated anyone in over 16 years. I ended up leaving and now he's upset with me because I left. I've explained why but he says he needs time to think about it. What do I do?

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      A Little Sugar

      Are you sure you're not playing games with him? Your issue seems more like a sick game of tease to me -- probably to him too. For you to be completely comfortable with him online/on the phone and then to shift into a split personality only sends out a red flag. I am afraid that there is nothing you can do except be smarter with future dates. If you aren't comfortable with dating, then please don't make the first date encounter his house. Try something safer like a coffee shop and, then in time, your comfort level will increase. Chime In | Meet Sugar

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          A Lot of Spice

          You need to give him the same space that you asked him for, even though he wasn't very good at it. People in love are vulnerable; it sounds like your sudden departure hurt his feelings, which is understandable. It'd be nice if he tried to be a little understanding too, but maybe you both just need more time to get to know one another. Just don't give up! Chime In | Meet Spice